This for me was particularly challenging as I could see through my own child, the learned behaviours adapted from both parents. One parent was navigating their way through conscious parenting and the second was continuing with the same projected and learned behaviours that I could clearly see between the dynamic of father and daughter. I was separated from my child's dad, which had formed part of my own conscious awareness journey and had to take a very careful approach around respecting where my ex was in his own current journey so as to not overstep and instead worked on communication with my child to educate around two different parental styles which allow them to become more informed.
It did feel slightly more challenging as I could see the same behaviour dynamics within my previous relationship play out with my own child, who had learned a lot of her mum's unhealed behaviours where I had to not only heal myself but re-educate through my own parenting. I focused on my own healing and conscious behaviours with a different narrative towards my daughter instead of trying to ‘fix’ where it became more about open discussion where she felt safe to voice her own opinion and feelings around certain situations. I recognised my own anxious attachment style had been inherited alongside the push and pull dynamic I had experienced in my own childhood. It was a hard realization yet with open discussions around how we were both feeling about various situations it ultimately led to a closer relationship and an environment of safety and authenticity through openness.